SOME THOUGHTS ON END ISSUES OF LIFE
ON ALL SAINTS DAY
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I have been asked for counsel about
End of Life issues on several fronts recently. The most
recent was the Steering Committee for the Man to Man cancer support group
I attended in Tacoma recently. Would I be willing to help put together a
program on “end of life issues?” I presume that my professional career should
have provided me with some experience.
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I agreed, but suggested that we should
not get too hung up about staying alive and avoiding death, or even about
preparing for dying. Rather we should give attention to how valuable our
lives are at the moment.
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Probably my best suggestion was that
we call in someone from Hospice, since End of Life is what they are all about.
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I have been monitoring several people
who are seeing the end of the conveyor belt of life. Most of us notice the
approach of this dropping off point as we grow older, but keep trying to
either slow it down or extend it. We have known some who grew tired of living
and wished for the end to come. As Jean's 97-year old Aunt Faye used to tell
us, “I keep trying to kick the bucket but I can’t find it.” Most, however,
want to keep going.
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Yes, I've had quite a few experiences
with people's worries. One time I was called in by an ancient matriarch in
deep distress as death approached following a stroke. She worried that her
long deceased husband wouldn't welcome her in her aged and decrepit condition.
I thought of telling her that Jesus taught that there was no marriage in
heaven anyway, but that wasn't what she wanted to hear.
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One elderly man wanted to be baptized,
mostly because his family feared for his soul's future. I think he and I
both knew that we were performing a fraud to get the family off his case.
Pastoral necessity, I called it, but not theologically defensible. I have
administered Catholic baptism in the absence of a Priest for a new-born infant
whose death was feared. What kind of God do they believe needs such acts?
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I know that I have flunked a number
of funerals because I did not offer the traditional “onward to heaven” speech.
What people don't want to hear is that Jesus hardly had a word to say about
after-life. He was a here and now kind of guy who prayed for the Kingdom
now and urged people to an abundant life while they lived. The gospel of
John is a funeral favorite because it has Jesus promising anxious disciples
that upon death they will be where he is, which is “with God,” whatever and
wherever that is. What no one knows or can assure us is what that means. I
can argue from John that what Jesus was saying was, “Don't worry about it.”
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As a minister, what should I do? I can
tell you what people hope. They hope that whatever ideas they have grown
up with, and not questioned or thought about all their lives, are true. They
don't want to hear that I don't know any more than they know or that those
preachers that make all sorts of promises based on a scattering of Bible
passages are also speculating. Some find comfort in the passages of Revelation
with John's spectacular visions of heaven.
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The fact is that upon death it's all
out of our hands. Nothing we did or could have done will change whatever
possibilities there may be. Curiosity and anxiety are not uncommon. More
common is a time when it is more desirable to go to sleep and leave whatever
comes next to the same mysterious source from which we came.
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Some people make a life of living toward
death. They want to be good enough to be able to enter the gates and claim
the reward. I always suspected that being good for sake of such a reward
was a bit selfish. Why not be good because that's the best thing to be done,
reward or not? Others never let their ancestors and loved ones go, so live
out their lives as mourners longing for re-connection. I think the Buddhists,
and many others who revere and remember ancestors, have something. I admit
to talking to my mother and father and grandfather in particular. They don't
talk back, but they have life in me at those moments. Albert Schweitzer wrote
about going to visit graves of friends where he talked to them. The “communion
of the saints” is a mystical and precious experience. But it is no basis
for a solid argument for life beyond life.
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At any rate,
all I know is that while we are alive our most sacred task is to live it
as well as we can. We want to be thankful for each moment. The best form
of thanks for a gift is to use it. We can’t waste time worrying about the
end or thereafter. Eternity lies in each moment and the purpose of life is
to translate these moments into eternity.
─ Art Morgan, October 31, 2006
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