It seems that
one day near the end of the school year the school was handing out awards
to honor student achievement. This was not one of those "make everyone
feel good" kind of events, but an honest-to-goodness achievement honoring
program. |
My grandson,
Max, perfect in every way in his grandparent's eyes, is a student in that
school. He is finishing his first year in Kindergarten. Even we admit that
he is an "enthusiastic" student. He knows the way to the principal's office.
But he's exceptionally bright, we think. |
On the day
of the awards Max was present. Like I say, he's pretty bright. He saw awards
being handed out. There was never a handout Max didn't want. Names were
called from various classes. Only a few from each class. |
Max began
to realize that his name had not been called. When the event was over,
Max asked his teacher: |
"Aren't
I perfect at anything?" |
When I heard
that, I wanted to rush to the phone and call Max and name all the things
at which he was perfect. |
I thought
for a while. I wanted make a list. I thought of all the great things he
can do. Snowboard, ride a bike, climb, catch a fish, ask "Why, Grandpa?"
He can stack blocks, run fast, throw a ball, count a ways and recognize
colors. I don't think he gets credit for those things at school. |
Sitting still
isn't one of his best sports. Long term attention isn't as good as his
long-term memory.
I hated to think the thought, but I couldn't think of
anything Max was perfect at — not anything. It didn't take me long to realize
that I couldn't think of anything anyone was perfect at. |
The Bible
lays the idea of being perfect upon us. One place, after Jesus has put
out some teachings such as loving enemies and praying for persecutors he
says, "Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect."
That's a heavy expectation. |
In the story
of the "Rich Young Ruler," who was anxious to receive a perfection award
and didn't get it ("Aren't I perfect in anything?"), asked what
he must do to get an award. Jesus said that if he was to be perfect he
had to sell all his possessions and give to the poor. |
A bit much,
he thought sorrowfully. |
All this notion
that we have to be perfect runs contrary to my understanding of the Gospel.
The thing that appealed to me about the Gospel (when I first had interest
in it) was that we are of value even when we are not perfect. In fact,
no one is perfect. Jesus is my man when someone called him "Good," and
he answered "Why do you call me good? Only my Father in heaven is good."
A little bit of imperfection didn't seem to worry Jesus. (Some of us have
even had doubts about whether God is as good as they/he/she/it is cut out
to be). The good news is that even though you're not perfect—and never
will be—you are worthy of love. Amazing grace, as they say. |
I decided
that the only thing Max needs to be perfect at is being Max. He's the only
one who can do that, and he does it perfectly. |
Subsequently,
perhaps after being softened by Max's heart-rending question, the Kindergarten
teacher had her own awards ceremony. This time around Max came home with
some awards. His awards were for running laps, knowing all his capitals,
and tying his shoes. |
That's my
Max. An award-winning kid. He's not quite perfect at everything, but he's
all right!
— Art
Morgan, Summer 1999
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